George Carlin once wrote a piece titled, “How to Stay Young.” In it he said, “Surround yourself with what you love, whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.” At the end he adds, “Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
I was moved by that and couldn’t help but think how we have an opportunity to make this happen every day – surrounding ourselves with what we love. It’s in our home where this is easiest to do and express. Once we decide what makes us happy, we can make it happen. It is the only place we have that kind of control.
Thee things we allow into our homes, our most personal spaces, are intimate, healing and revealing. These are the possessions that speak to us consciously and unconsciously. is is one of the reasons you hear so much about de-cluttering, which allows us to breathe more freely. So many of us live with items that have no meaning to us, yet we hold on to them for reasons we excuse.
When I first meet my clients they often tell me about their ideas of what they think they “should do” in their home. My tendency is to ask if money were no object and nothing else had to be considered, what “would” you do? What is your ideal style of living? Many of us live someone else’s expression because we just haven’t taken the time and thought to find our own.
This change in thinking opens a whole new world of design choices and generally results in a different outcome. Sometimes we hold ourselves back from what we really want because we think we can’t have it; however, when we talk it out, things change. is leads us into a new way of thinking – it gives us the opportunity to think outside the box. And when you do, amazing things can happen.
As an example, a client came to me not knowing how she wanted her new home to be decorated. She was feeling overwhelmed by all the decisions she had to make, knowing she had to live with her choices for a long time.
She wasn’t sure what she wanted to live with. I encouraged her to only make decisions that were essential to moving into the house and wait until she was ready to decide how to move forward. After all, her new environment would be filled with things she hadn’t experienced before.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself, to get your thoughts in a more con dent direction:
- What colors are you attracted to? ink about what you like and equally important don’t like.
- What furniture styles do you enjoy – Traditional, contemporary, mid-century modern, etc.?
- What type of wood do you prefer – light or dark color; light or heavy grain; laminate or lacquer?
- What metals and nishes do you prefer – chrome or brass, shiny or matte, oil-rubbed bronze, etc.?
- What kind of window coverings, serve your needs? Decorative, privacy or heat ltering?
- What oor surfaces do you prefer – hard or soft? at is wood, tile or carpet.
- What sounds are important to you – bubbling water from a fountain or music from surround sound?
- What variety of textures do you desire in fabrics?
These are a few details to think about to help you feel your spirit in your home, your refuge. When you do, you’ll create an environment that takes your breath away. Your real space!
And always remember, rooms have no feelings, YOU do!
